That’s the question you need to ask yourself when you’re posting on social media.

This afternoon, while I was procrastinating work, of course, I found myself scrolling through my Facebook timeline, as one does.

What I saw was a bombardment of posts about how “lucky,” “blessed,” and “grateful,” my friends were for xyz in their lives.

Now you’re probably thinking “Erin, what’s wrong with expressing a little gratitude? Isn’t being grateful a good thing?”

Yes, it is. Gratitude itself is great; it’s energetically healing, it leads to better health outcomes (seriously, look it up), and allows energy to flow where the intention goes. When you’re focused on abundance, you’ll receive more as a by-product.

HOWEVER. A lot of these posts on social media that are masquerading as being based in gratitude are actually based in ego.

Ego: The perception of separation, usually resulting in fear and a need to be “special.”

Let me explain- social media itself is a place where you’re ego thrives because it’s totally curated. When you control other’s perception of you, it’s hard to not default into the desire to be different, separate, and special. This is the entire basis of the Instagram celebrity. Who doesn’t want to see themselves as having ‘more’ or being ‘better, ‘ ‘happier’ or ‘more accomplished’ than their friends, family, and even enemies?

That’s why when you want to post about something awesomeamazingandsuperspecial that happened to you, you need to ask yourself who you are talking to.

When you post about how in love you are and how happy you are in your relationship, who are you talking to?

When you post the picture of the new expensive purse you bought, who are you talking to?

When you post a selfie with 10 filters and Photoshopping, who are you talking to?

When you post intimate photos of yourself and claim empowerment, who are you talking to?

When you post ‘before’ and ‘after’ pictures, who are you talking to?

When you post about how zen and spiritual you are doing yoga in your Lululemon’s, who are you talking to?


Many might see this as an attack on them, but that’s just your perception being projected onto this statement.

If you think it’s about you, it is- just not in the way you think.

This is an opportunity to look inside and ask yourself why you are trying to control your image or what perception you’re trying to create and what fears and insecurities are hiding behind that. What fears are you trying to ignore?

The good news? These posts can also show you what desires you can focus on fulfilling. If you want to post about love, use the gap you’re trying to fill with the post as a measuring stick to what you’re capable of creating. Use that desire and see how you’re not fully showing up to your life, by settling for less than you already know you’re worth, by merit of even being able to conceive of it.

Social media can heal, if you allow your ego’s walls to come crashing down.

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